THE COMMENTARY ON THE TWIST OF LIFE

The poem the twist of life was authored under some bizarre circumstances. The author married 2004 based on emotions he felt were real. Prior to 2004, he had had so many relationships which could not blossom into anything meaningful. His emotional development was rather stunted. He did not feel or believe in love and concluded it can never happen to him.
In November 2003, he was amazed after a hot rewarding conversation with a young lady which made an indelible impression on him. Suddenly the emotions started flowing (love?), this is shown by his words of praise as he describes this young lady at the beginning of the poem. He felt he had it and he hurriedly plunged into a lifelong commitment (marriage).
TWIST OF LIFE was written at a time when the author found out his lifelong decision was based on uncertainty and fantasies. This is indicated by his words ‘what you desire is not what you get’; it suddenly hit him that the relationship was not he bargained for. Doubts, mixed emotions were the results of his mistake (bad decisions).
Life could give you TALL or SHORT these refer to physical appearance. One could get a tall or short mate. Many young ones today make a pre-decision of what their mate would look like; some might go to the extent of assigning specifics like 5ft 0r 6 ft. However, when emotion strikes these statistics are not usually remembered, which for good as these physical attributes does not play significant role in relationships.
The poem refers to life giving one a ‘miss’, ‘Mrs.’ or ‘1/2mrs’ these are various options life presents.
MISS- a young lady, unmarried, beautiful, in her own way, full of life, and confidence without any care in the world. The ladies in this group are sometimes difficult to deal with; they are not desperate and expect every young man to be at their back and call. They believe there is still life. Experiences of some young men has the folly of having such ladies, a man picked one of such fine ladies and sent her to school, provided for her needs and paid for her schooling only at the end the receives the rhetoric question ‘how much did you pay? let me pay back’ as thank you. Life can be cruel; we do not know what we will get.
MRS- refers to those ladies who hitherto had been married and for one reason or the other are now unmarried (divorce or death of spouse). The ladies in this group are usually accommodating, self satisfied, self made, not usually desperate, might even have kids.
Most times the relationship starts on simple friendly note and progresses to the young man running errands and chores and there blossoms a relationship, not before long the man will try convincing himself the lady is not bad, age is a thing of the mind, and other self assuaging expressions. Suddenly, it happens love (emotions). Some other young men might enter such union because of their position in life believing that their lot will be bettered if they enter such relationship. That is a bad decision and later they regret.
The author talks about 1/2mrs in reference to ladies who had had a semi marriage experience. When two people believe they are in love, they might impulsively de3cide to live together and see how the relationship goes. Days, months and even years later such relationship can end. In certain parts of Africa it is accepted practice for two people who are in love to live together as they test run the relationship to see if it will result in marriage. After some time if the lady becomes pregnant a wedding is hurriedly organized but if the lady fails to be pregnant she is asked to leave and their ends a lifelong dream. Mistake bad decisions. Lets face it this lady is now desperate for a relationship, she is like used car in car market pool. She will do anything to woo a man, loyal to a fault and will likely shield her faults and weaknesses only for them to be obvious three months later after the wedding.
This is likely the situation the writer found himself; the language of the poem suggests disappointment obviously from a failed marriage. Many share these similar experiences from bad decisions as each day go by our emotions continue to develop from unfeeling to supposed love then surprise at the realization that it is not love, then comes disappointment and hate. This emotional development might continue to disengagement, divorce, or even death. None of these options are palatable. What are your own experiences feel free to share. We await your comment as we await the next commentary on the poem.

THE TWIST OF LIFE

Life who can tell it allThe goodtimes;the bad times
what u desire is not what u getwhat u want eludes u
what u believe runs away from u
No one can say how it will eventually turn out no wonder the old book say:lets not talk about what we can dowith certainty....that is only for God
I've resolved to accept what life gives. Life acts at whim it gives u whatever it wants
with no already written codeit can give u black or fair
it can give u tall or short, furnish a miss ,mrs or 1/2mrs or provide u with ever smiling like the sun floweror gorgeous as with the rose flower.
Life who can really tell, it's wind can blow hardlike a desert fan or fair like the buzzing air conditioner or worse like a hurricane take life as it comes in good faith. No hurry in life true taking one step at a time, flow with the stance of life don;t expect too much from it.